I was out with my sister recently and my guy friend called and we began to talk about our plans for the night. I told him my plans and then I told him that I would try to stop by the lounge he planned to spend the evening. We went on about a little bit of everything. He even asked what I was wearing and if I got any numbers so far,lol (He's childish).
Once I hung up the phone she asked what type of friend he was. I said “Ummm. I don’t know. We just hang out and talk almost everyday. I could tell him anything, he keeps some of my secrets and he don‘t leave me or judge me whenever I start acting a fool (😇). This has been going on for at least a year.
Her reply “Wow! You two have the perfect relationship.
Her: You tell him about other guys and he doesn’t care?
Her: Does he tell you about other girls?
Me: Actually. No. I don’t ask either. Somehow I don’t care.
Her: You are weird and obviously he’s desperate or ugly or lonely.
Me: Well damn! Lol
Actually he’s gorgeous but he’s just a friend.
Once I got home (I changed my mind about going to the lounge as promised ....and he didn’t get mad🤔) I called him and told him about the conversation between my sister and I.
I told him, the same thing I bitch and scream about in my other friendships...he’s not doing and we get alone so well. Somehow he got away with having no expectations and our friendship flourished. This is because there’s no pressure, no concrete expectations (beyond the obvious) and no timeline of how things should be progressing. It’s just easy and things flow.
I can’t lie and say that I haven’t been deleted and blocked seven times (I think it’s 8 or 9 times by now🤔) because I dismissed him and or I didn’t take his feelings into account in certain situations...but he always has my back...and takes me back,lol.
I learn more about myself in each situation and while I don’t want to admit it, he gets me. There are things about him that I can’t get with, and he thinks the same about me.
We probably will not be together in that capacity but its cool to have a friend like him. Then again, who knows what the future may hold.
All of this time- I’m keeping these high ass standards for the guys that I meet...and things don’t work out...while friend boy just chilling and getting closer to my heart.
Cheers to no pressure friendships🥂.
Disclaimer-Some men need to be told what to do. Don't let up Sis! Lol